I’m sure it’s awful for most of us every time we’re broken up with. Since there are many ways to do it (none great) there are things you can do to make it respectful and a little easier to cope with.
Don’t be fearful of doing the break-up face to face. Show respect for yourself and the other person and break-up while looking that person in the eye.
There’s nothing worse than falling apart with total strangers watching you. Don’t break up in a public place; pick a mutually comfortable spot with very few other people around.
A long meal could be too much to endure with anger and tears overcoming the person, so keep the meeting short. Better off for every one is a quick break-up date.
Don’t clich. Avoid saying the following: “It’s me, it’s not you” and “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
White lies are OK so recognize when it’s proper to save that other person’s feelings. Now is not the time to pick him or her apart with all the little things that drive you crazy (like movie preferences and eating habits). Stick to the real reason the relationship is ending.
Just say, “I think we’d both be happier with someone else” or “I don’t see this going anywhere” and avoid analogies. Comparing the other person to cars, food, ex’s, vacations, and so on is a don’t.
Call once, but not more, and then you can be done. It’s best to check in once to say hello, and you’re sorry, but that going your separate ways really is best. You might give the other person hope for reconciliation when there is none by dragging out a break-up.
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