Have you ever tried to communicate with someone you’re dating about how HE is feeling? It’s not usually too easy to pry feelings from the depths of a man’s mind, underneath all the football, baseball, cars and “man things” that take up the space in there. The thing is - if you are at the point in your relationship where you are wondering what your boyfriend is thinking and feeling about you and your relationship right now… then it might already be TOO LATE.
What I mean is - if you don’t know what he feels about you, that is a huge indicator that you two do not have the kind of open-book communication that it takes to have a healthy and secure relationship. You certainly want to avoid going down that road again, don’t you? From my own experiences, I know that is a horrible feeling to have.
But its not all about just feeling horrible, either. You could lose your man if the communication does not correct itself between you. Your boyfriend may already be thinking about LEAVING and you won’t even know it.
I hear you asking me — what can I possibly do to correct this? Well it just so happens that I have a few simple steps you can take to begin making your relationship communication right again.
The first step toward making your relationship better is to make YOU better. You need to quit trying to get inside his mind and instead focus on understanding what is going on in your own mind. You must learn that you are in complete control of your actions and reactions at all times. Learn to master this control and master yourself before you move on to any of the other steps.
Secondly - you need to think and act in a positive fashion. If you react negatively to him by becoming clingy or whiney when you think something is wrong, you are only going to drive the stake deeper into the heart of the vampire if you know what I mean. If you expect the worst - you will get the worst.
Third - start trusting your intuition to tell you what he is really saying. Look deeper than the surface. Trust in your intuition and look at all the signals he is in you. Instead of voicing all your questions, internalize them, keeping them in the forefront of your mind while you look for your intuition to guide you to correct answer.
The fourth and possibly most important tip I will give you is to learn to correctly interpret what your intuition is telling you. Let’s say you’ve been cheated on before and now you have the sinking feeling that your current boyfriend is cheating on you as well. He is acting sneaky and odd. But later you may come to find out that he is planning a surprise birthday party for you. This was not at all what you thought was going on.
In an example like this — you jumped to an incorrect conclusion about what your intuition was telling you. Instead you need to learn to look at all the clues and allow the situation to play itself out while listening to your intuition and not letting negative experiences mask what your intuition is actually telling you. These things will all help you to have more effective communication and a better relationship. To read more relationship advice or get dating tips for women, click on the link below.