Make a note of anything that you find which may be at all incriminating. You will not be able to remember everything you find, as you are under more than a stress already. Keeping large amounts of information in your mind is a difficult task at the best of times.
It is important that you keep track of all suspicious activities, note down the dates and times. For example does your husband regularly go to the gym? When he gets home check to see if his towel is wet -in other words has he had a shower. It will be easier for you to track patterns in his behaviour if you have all of this on paper.
It is important that you pay extremely close attention to all the things your husband says or does on a day-to-day basis, and make notes about it. You may think we have noticed a new or modified behaviour one day, but you are not really sure of yourself. If you are keeping note of all this you will be 100% sure that you are correct.
It is entirely up to you to set boundaries on how far you want to look into your husband’s private life. Many women believe that certain boundaries should not be crossed, but you need to decide what you feel comfortable doing. If your husband is cheating on you, you need to remember that the end will justify the means.
The most important thing to keep track of is your phone bill, if you notice strange numbers you should be very wary of what your husband is doing. It is one of the simplest mistakes he can make, calling his new girlfriend on your phone. If you have access you should also check his cell phone records.
When you are looking for evidence, and more importantly when you have found it, make careful notes of everything. Make sure that you don’t leave any evidence of your investigation behind you, this means you should make copies of any and all paperwork or e-mails, leave the originals where you found them. You do not want to make your husband suspicious until you are sure you have the evidence to confront him.
If you think you are ready to confront your husband, and hands all the evidence you need, make sure you plan it properly. Have all the accusations and evidence in front of you, make notes and follow them. You must be sure that your case is watertight at this point, don’t confront him until you are confident he is cheating. This will be a very emotional time for both of you, and you should be ready for him to continue lying. You must be strong and you must be prepared.
Your intuition is a very powerful tool, remember to always follow it and it will lead you to the truth.