If you think your husband might be cheating, give him all the rope he needs to hang himself with conflict. In other words let him make the mistakes that you know he is going to make, don’t accuse until you have sufficient proof. The rate of infidelity is rising, so below are some of the top signs that you should look out for to check your cheating partner.
1. 90% of cheaters will do so in our own bed at some time during your relationship. If you suspect your husband has been cheating on you in your own home, try making your bed in a particular way, check it every day, if you’re husband has been using it with somebody else, you will know as he will have made differently.
2. Set a trap. Use one of your friends that he doesn’t know to help you with this. Get your friend to check on him at a bar or a party and record the conversation. One easy way to do this is to have her call either your or her answering service just before she talks to him, this way you can have concrete proof of his infidelity.
3. If you man is cheating he won;t be able to resist doing it when you are out of town. So tell your husband that you will be away all weekend, give him exact times when you are leaving and when you expect to be back. Then give him a kiss and go set your trap. All you need to do is wait and watch, you will not need to wait long.
4. It is important that you keep an eye on all your husband’s financial transactions. This includes ATM withdrawals, receipts, and credit card statements, keep an eye out for any unusual transactions. You may be lucky and find some obvious evidence such as motel room receipts, or a jeweller’s receipts, although you have not had any new jewellery recently. Your husband may be cleverer than this, and could be using cash to buy gifts or pay for things for his new lover. He may give himself away though if he is withdrawing the same sum of money at the same time every week or month, which he will be using to pay for a motel room.
5. Monitor both his cell phone and your home phone. If you have access to his cell phone bill, watch for repeated calls or calls of long duration and the times. Watch how he uses his phone, does he answer it then move out of your earshot, does he take it everywhere with him, including the bathroom. Note whether returned calls to you are extremely delayed without verified reasons, or if he always turns off his cell phone when he’s with you.
If, after all this you still do not have sufficient evidence to confront your husband, you can try bluffing him. Say something along the lines of, I know what you’ve been doing and I’ll give you one last chance to confess and tell me everything. You may find that he will break down and give you all the information you want, but he will more than likely lie to the end.
I can guarantee you that he will screw up at some point, you may need to be more patient, but stay watchful. You could go out and hire a private investigator, however, this is often expensive and there is still a chance that your husband is not cheating. I advise you to follow the above steps and keep rigorous notes of your findings.