Have you avoided approaching a girl just because she is talking to another guy?
Or maybe you fear of getting embarrass if you approached a group of girls with one or two guys with them because you ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.
Most guys shy away from approaching women who are with other guys for a couple reasons.
They assume that the girl is “with” the guy, and assume he’s her boyfriend.
This isn’t a real reason to not talk to a woman, especially in a bar - it’s a social setting where people meet other people. Plus - she’s not his “slave” - she’s a human being, not a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever she chooses.
You will extremely look confident if you approach more often a woman who is “with” a guy and this can draw out the guy’s jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.
The other reason points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception that’s why they avoid talking to woman who is “with” a guy.
Men tend to be threatened by other men, instantly assuming that the “other guy” is stronger, cooler, or somehow more powerful.
This exist in an ancient survival strategy that has been passed through human minds.
The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious, and it’s hard to tell who the more “dominant” person is in any given interaction. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn’t know how dominant the other guy is.
As was probably common thousands of years ago, a guy doesn’t know if he will be embarrassed verbally.
To assumed that the guy is a threat is the safest way to play. Because guys that are too bold may have won a few confrontations, but it will take them a single mistake that can end up their game.
And then their genes were eliminated from “race” so to speak.
Those guys that avoided confrontation and played safe are the one that can successfully reproduce and survive.
The irony is that most of approach anxiety nowadays have the basis on this hard-wired survival strategy - the false assumptions of the guys will lead them to unnecessarily avoid women.
The thing is, when you are in the bar or club and you see a woman talking to another guy, you would think she’s not WITH him.
Usually, they JUST MET!
For many instances I’ve approached a girl with a guy thinking it was her boyfriend, then only to find out that he was just a random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.
I have regrets to those times that I’ve missed so many opportunities talking to a woman just because I saw her with another guy. And this brings me to my first point:
I SHOULDN’T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL I SEE A PHYSICAL EVIDENCE. I DON’T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE GIRL.
You will know it if you try to act and find out. Just remember that in time that they are together you should be alert an respectful, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and may start a confrontation.
So be smart and wise - don’t just stick around on having a false judgment.