Dating can be your best pal.
…OR your worst enemy.
Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.
Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren’t physically satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.
One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals.
Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, but so do women.
In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
Managing your time with women can get really tricky. You see, most guys WANT to give women their time. Men are by nature the “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”
It was probably something like “feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.
Second, they think that when a woman spends her time with them, they are “getting” something valuable.
Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
That’s so untrue!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.
It is hard to notice the mental habits because these are subtle and you’ve been doing them for years.