Take charge of yourself. If it is going to grow again you need to start with you. Your significant other or ex is going to need a bridge to meet you half way. Did it end because of unfaithful behavior? You have to rediscover how to mend that bridge and start a new path. Start by not pointing blame at either person. Then see that it takes a even part of both to make the relationship begin to come together again.
Get communicating again. Analyze where you went wrong. Was is at the beach? At the party? Her girlfriends? Your male friends? Your female friends? Other? Opening a safe line of communication is the main step. Failing to speak without harming each other is the beginning to healing your relationship.
Some of the things you might want to do are take time for you and your mate. Try taking a walk together and talk about the weather, or other topics that reduces stress. You want to avoid stressful subjects until you are ready to discuss your problems calmly. One of the biggest mistakes people make, is calling shots while emotions are soaring. This leads to a yelling match and no one wins.
Meeting your partner is the first step in the relationship healing process. Taking it slowly is sometimes the better motivator towards healing. If things go well you may have a romantic night together.
As your relationship begins to mend keeping working on improving yourself. Your mate will take notice. Take time out for keeping yourself in a healthy state of mind. Find the time to add to the lines of communication. Without detracting from your time together. You can make your relationship work again.
How do I improve my personal life? Improving your life takes action. The first thing you want to do is to sit down, make a list, plan and set goals to change. DO not beat yourself up. Instead of looking at all the bad, look at the good since thinking positive is the key to success.
As you achieve your goals this will cause your mate to take even more notice. This will improve both of your lives.