A tactic is defined as a plan for achieving a particular goal. In this instance, your goal is getting your girl back and repairing the root cause of the break up.
1.) To begin with, you will need to slowly bring her back into the relationship. An injury does not mend overnight. A little time will be needed to mend your broken relationship.
Instead of attempting to repair things as fast as possible, you’ll have to figure on a month to let things cool off. While you’re waiting, you should be sizing up the relationship itself. Think about issues such as whether you really do want her back and personal changes that you will make to get the relationship to work.
2.) When this cooling off period is over, you’ll need to open up the channels of communication with her again. It is vital that you establish a good degree of comfort with her. This basically means being friends and being able to converse with her in a relaxed way.
You shouldn’t have any discussions on serious issues that place pressure on her. Now is not the time to be talking about the separation or other serious relationship issues. There will come a time for this type of talk but it will have to be at a later stage.
If it seems impossible to become friends, then you’ll have to allow a longer time for her to cool down. Nonetheless, a month ought to be the limit. Excessive time apart will cause your ex to get comfortable with a life that doesn’t include you. In addition, it increases the odds of another boyfriend to come into her life.
3.) There will come a time when the important matter of resuming the relationship will have to be talked over. Bringing this up is going to be a very awkward and delicate time. However, you can’t afford to be spending too much time as her friend. If there is no chance of convincing her, you need to know this so that you can get on with your life.
Don’t place too much expectation in her being agreeable with coming back. A non-committal response means that the possibility of continuing your relationship still exists in her mind. It’ll only require more time for her to decide one way or the other.
4.) A tactic to try out is to exploit something that everyone has done at one point or another. What I’m talking of is the inclination that we all have to play back emotional events several times over in our heads. When a person says something that induces a very powerful emotion, we like to replay that moment over and over in our minds.
This is the way that we process feelings that we have about a specific emotional circumstance. Usually, this happens when a person suddenly makes a snide comment that seems to come out of the blue. But, this phenomenon can also be induced with a totally unanticipated compliment.
For this to work, you’ll need to provoke a strong positive emotion from her. This will have to be a nice gesture or compliment that she normally wouldn’t expect to come from you.
If you succeed in this, she’ll be enjoying this repeatedly in her mind when she is by herself. Her good feelings about you becomes strengthened and reinforced with every “play-back”. You probably won’t be able to induce this state more than a couple of times, but one or two times is all you’ll have to do.
Skillful use of these tactics should help a lot in your efforts to get your ex back.